Before you read this I want you to be in a quiet comfortable place and take a few long slow breaths, gently allow your eyes close and just be with your own natural breath for a few minutes. Breathing in and out, being very mindful of your breath and silently repeat to yourself “I am loved”. After a few minutes open your eyes and see before you some brightly wrapped boxes, my Christmas gifts to you.
The first gift you reach for is the gift of self love, when you open this gift the smell of lavender floats out and inside the box is a gorgeous handheld mirror. Look into that mirror and see yourself as you really are; a woman, a great, strong and compassionate woman. A fierce mother bear, a tireless volunteer, a hard working employee, a selfless partner, a woman who gives over and over again of her love and energy, never really asking for much in return.
The next gift is the gift of insight, when you open this lovely box you will immediately have an aha moment. You will realise that you have been living in fear for far too long. That you have allowed the monkeys in your mind to chatter endlessly, telling you; I can’t. You shouldn’t. What would people think?
The third gift is courage. You already have a ton of courage, or you wouldn’t be here, you have weathered hard times, lost loved ones, failed, picked yourself up again and again, and yet you still have self doubt. This courage is not false bravado to hide your insecurities; this courage comes from the universe, it’s a calm steady courage that comes to you in your quiet thoughts. This courage will take you to the next phase of your life, where you begin to use your gifts to serve the universe.
After courage comes patience. Yes, it will take time, things won’t come easy, you will have to work hard for them and at one point you will almost give up. But remember that just before dawn it’s the darkest. Please don’t give up! Dig in deeper, hold your head higher and “keep up trucking baby “as the best is yet to come.
The next gift is the gift of thick skin, oh you will need it. People may not agree with you, they may betray you; they may try to slay you on Social Media. Keep your head high, dig deeper and stay on your path. Allow naysayers and critics to fall by the wayside. It’s going to be hard, it may hurt, you may cry, but wipe off your face, pull on your big girl panties and stand tall. Treat critics as teachers; thank them silently for making you strong, for teaching you to be true to yourself. Go deep within and find solace in that little spark of divine that lives within you. To quote Rumi the great Sufi mystic and poet “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
There’s a little gift box that looks like it could hold a ring, but when you open it you find that it contains forgiveness. Yes you have been hurt; I understand that, I have been hurt too. I have experienced things I don’t write about, I have been hurt by others and I have hurt myself. Forgive yourself and others and in that you will find great freedom. The Dictionary describes freedom as “the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint”. Anger and hate hold you back; they hurt you in the long run. Let go of them, work through your resentments and then move on. I am so sorry you had to experience what you went through, but please don’t let it hide your light.
Towards the back of the tree you find another box, this box is beautiful and you unwrap it to find what looks like an old treasured book, as you open the box you see it’s the book of your life. As you read the earlier chapters of your life, you realise that everyone and everything has been put in your path to make you the person you are today. You no longer regret the hard times as you see them as lessons needed to make you who you are today. Some pages are blank as it is up to you to create the next chapters of your life. Write your own future, make it amazing, and make it a love story, not the romantic kind but a story of loving yourself more.
And finally you unwrap with gift of gratitude, it comes in the form of a beautiful shawl, it sparkles and when you place in on your shoulders it’s invisible to the eye. . Gratitude is my favorite spiritual principle it can change a good day to a bad day, it draws positive energy and people into your life, but most of all it’s the path to happiness, be grateful for who you are, and for what you have.
These are just some of the things my female customers have had to overcome.
I’ll end this now with one of my favorite quotes, I have used it in past blogs, but it’s worth using again.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
Thank you for another great year, doing what I love, I coudn’t be doing it without your support.
Dare to dream big
Take actions on your dreams
Walk with love and gratitude